WHO IS AT FAULT? WHO IS GOING TO FIX IT?

It seems that there has been several situations that I have been in or asked about or just observed that is asking those very questions. Most people focus on whose fault is it. While there is a place to understand fault (what is causing this situation), the main issue is who is going to fix it? There may be issues on both sides that need to be addressed. Ultimately you can only "fix" yourself. What I mean is if you approach relationships thinking I need to fix or change them you are headed for disappointment. The question is not how do they need to change so we can get along better. The question is am I going to let Jesus in me make a difference. That doesn't mean we are a doormat, God's love speaks truthfully about situations. But God's love in us is able to bless even in the face of unfair treatment. It is able to reach out even when pushed away. It is able to respond in peace even in the face of anger. I guess the whole point is are you going to be a victim or are you going to be the one to make a difference? So the next time you face a conflict(with a parent, friend, girlfriend/ boyfriend, family member, etc.) don't dig in and wait for them to do what you think they should. Determine to do the right thing yourself regardless of what they do. You be the one to make a difference.